2015 Reprint of 1957 Edition. Full facsimile of the original edition. “Active Listening”, first developed by Rogers and Farson, is a therapeutic technique designed to promote positive change in the client. Active listening is a communication technique used in counseling, training and conflict resolution, which requires the listener to feed back what they hear to the speaker, by way of re-stating or paraphrasing what they have heard in their own words, to confirm what they have heard and moreover, to confirm the understanding of both parties. It continues to have a lasting influence to this day.
Active listening is a person’s willingness and ability to hear and understand. At its core, active listening is a state of mind that involves paying full and careful attention to the other person, avoiding premature judgment, reflecting understanding, clarifying information, summarizing, and sharing. By learning and committing to the skills and behaviors of active listening, leaders can become more effective listeners and, over time, improve their ability to lead.
Listening is an essential skill worth every effort to learn and to master. It opens us to the world around us and to the persons who matter most to us. When we listen, we learn, we grow, and we are nourished.Why do we often feel cut off when speaking to the people closest to us? What is it that keeps so many of us from really listening? Practicing psychotherapists, Donoghue and Siegel answer these questions and more in this thoughtful, witty, and helpful look at the reasons why people don’t listen. Filled with vivid examples that clearly demonstrate easy-to-learn listening techniques, Are You Really Listening? is a guide to the secrets and joys of listening and being listened to.
In this book, Brother David Steindl-Rast, who has been a monk for more than 50 years, argues that every sensual experience—whether the joy of walking barefoot or the fragrance of the season—should be recognized as a spiritual one.
Scores of books flood the market on how to preach; few focus on how to listen to preaching. Few parishioners understand Calvin when he said that hearers should become as involved in sermons as preachers. In BE CAREFUL HOW YOU LISTEN, Jay Adams begins to redress this imbalance by providing numerous practical tips on how to get more out of sermons–even poorly preached sermons!
There are over 2000 scripture verses that include the words listen, listening, hear, and hearing — depending on Bible translation. Let there be no doubt that God’s Word is sending a strong message – BE QUICK TO LISTEN! This book offers you practical wisdom on how to listen better to God, yourself, and to others in ways that will enrich your life and strengthen your faith.
The various crises we experience in society and culture today, at their root, reveal a spiritual problem: a profound lack of meaning. The mystical truths revealed in scripture can surely help.
World-renowned restorative yoga teacher Jillian Pransky came to the practice of yoga to heal herself. In Deep Listening, Pransky presents her signature Calm Body, Clear Mind, Open Heart program–a 10-step journey of self-exploration that she’s taught around the world. Derived from the techniques that healed her, the practice of Deep Listening invites you to pay close attention to your body, mind, and heart. This is the new frontier in integrative wellness–mindfulness designed for healing.
What do we really mean when we make embarrassing mistakes in conversation? Is there such a thing as inadvertent insult or a slip of the tongue? Exploring outside influences and the connections to our dream world, Dr. Robert Haskell guides us through the fascinating terrain of the unconscious, showing how our minds use feelings, sounds, and language to simultaneously hide and reveal what we secretly think and feel. Filled with intriguing and amusing illustrations from every day life, Deep Listening provides the key to unlocking the real feelings and meanings behind our interactions with family, friends, and co-workers.
This pocket-sized guide will help you to reconnect with your innate gift of deep listening, to create the right space to listen to yourself before you listen to others.
You’ll learn to listen beyond the words that are spoken, to add context and meaning and listen in to what’s not being said.
Deep Listening will help you move from confusion and conflict to thoughtful, insightful and powerful discussions that will transform not just your work, but your whole life.
Tactics for Listening Third Edition is an activity-rich listening course with proven success in building skills in listening and conversation. Now with Tactics for Testing, it provides plenty of practice in testing and exam techniques. The result is confident listeners – and exam success.
“The Business Skills Express Series” covers a broad range of key business skills and topics in a fast, interactive format that should appeal to employees, managers, and trainers alike. These authoritative books deliver training and give readers new ways to increase productivity and career satisfaction. This book covers effective listening skills.
Expository Listening is your handbook on biblical listening. It is designed to equip you not only to understand what true, biblical preaching sounds like, but also how to receive it, and ultimately, what to do about it.
Only when pastors hear beyond the words, can they care-fully minister. Pastors listen all the time. Or do they? Listening is more than a developed skill; it is an awesome gift of hospitality offered to others. According to Dr. Emma Justes, hearing beyond the words signifies an intimate relationship characterize by humility, thoughtful availability, vulnerability, and mutuality. Listening requires focused attention and openness. To help the reader learn this essential skill, the author includes exercises at the end of each chapter to build needed competency for this healing ministry.
How might listening more deeply to your body change the way you listen to God?
A stroke at age 31 forced Whitney Simpson to slow down and listen more deeply to her body. As she journeyed toward healing, she found several ancient practices helpful in connecting her body and spirit, which ultimately helped her listen more closely to God.
This 40-day book of meditations guides you to listen to God through lectio divina (meditative scripture reading), yoga, breath prayer, and aromatherapy. It provides suggestions for small groups, descriptions and illustrations of yoga postures, and chair modifications for the yoga postures.
3- 8 year old children, parents and teachers love Howard B. Wigglebottom. In this story, Howard gets into a lot of trouble for not listening. When he becomes a better listener, his life improves dramatically. Tips and lessons and a poster are included.
How to be Heard includes never-before-seen exercises to develop your communication skills that are as effective at home as in the boardroom or conference call. Julian Treasure offers an inspiring vision for a sonorous world of effective speaking, listening and understanding.
No relationship is perfect–but it can be better. The secret to stronger relationships isn’t to become more charming or funny or to solve the world’s problems or to just try harder. All you have to do is listen. It’s that simple.
Often the purity and the freshness of your initial experience with God becomes clouded by the daily routine of life. The clamor of other voices obscures your hearing, leavingyou confused and frustrated with your relationship with God.
How to Listen to God helps you distinguish God’s voice from all the others.
The ultimate “parenting bible” (The Boston Globe) with a new foreword—and available as an ebook for the first time—a timeless, beloved book on how to effectively communicate with your child from the #1 New York Times bestselling authors.
A woman has a powerful influence on the man in her life. But in order to empower him to become all he was meant to be, she has to be able to talk so that he will listen, and listen so that he will talk. Author Rick Johnson shares with women the secrets to bringing about positive change in the men in their lives and shows them how to recognize and affirm his good qualities.
“I hear things all around me. Talking is a special sound I hear.” Listening is a critical communication skill that builds a child’s attention span and leads to understanding. This simple but powerful board book helps toddlers see why listening is important, understand what it means to be a good listener, and recognize how listening benefits everyone. At home and at school, a little girl discovers wonderful sounds, kind words, new things to learn, and a sense of belonging. “When I really listen, I feel like I matter to someone. I show people they’re important to me.” Includes tips and information for teachers, parents, and caregivers and downloadable bonus activities.
The first step in persuading anyone to do anything is getting them to hear you out. But whether the person is a cynical colleague, furious customer, or overwhelmed spouse, their emotional barriers may be blocking your message. And if you can’t break through, you can’t move forward. Just Listen has helped tens of thousands of people tear down walls and establish productive communication. In this landmark book, veteran psychiatrist and business coach Mark Goulston reveals simple, proven techniques for moving people from resistance to consensus.
A hilarious romp about a bunny who just can’t seem to listen. He is constantly confusing instructions. For example, when his parents ask for a slice of bread, he saws off a piece of his bed. But everything changes when he takes a wrong turn and meets up with Scruffy Varmint.
Listen introduces parents to five simple, practical skills even the most harried parent can use. These tools will help parents strengthen their connection with their child and help build their child’s intelligence, cooperation, and ability to learn as they grow. The book delivers detailed information accompanied by more than one hundred real-life stories from parents who’ve used this approach to address the root causes of their child’s difficult behaviors.
We live in a world of noise. Everywhere we go, we hear sounds that compete for our minds and hearts. Listening to God requires a deliberate choice to shut out the chaos around us and focus our thoughts.
Today’s educational system is broken, an archaic process based on a colonization that is both dulling and ineffective. We need to tap into the creative souls of children, listen to them, and acknowledge that students and teachers alike are suffering. If we approach educating our children from a life- and soul-affirming place, they will begin to thrive.
Listen Up: How to improve relationships, reduce stress, and be more productive by using the power of listening
A handbook for effective communication focuses on developing long-neglected listening skills, discussing different listening styles, exploring techniques for maintaining people’s interest, showing how different age groups listen differently, and much more.
The secret to leadership and transformation of a group–or of another person–is the quality of the relationship one person has with another. The effective group leader or counselor will be the person who learns how to listen to other people. By studying and employing listening skills, church leaders will engage others more compassionately, allowing them to feel that their needs are being met. These skills can be used with persons who are terminally ill, inactive at church, going through a divorce, in a family with a severely ill person, unemployed, seeking a new church, grieving, traumatized by catastrophe, going through teenage adolescence, in marriage counseling, or leading a ministry team.
The new edition of the Listening and Notetaking Skills series incorporates engaging National Geographic content and video featuring authentic interviews and videos with National Geographic Explorers! This unique approach engages learners while enhancing listening comprehension and developing notetaking and study skills.
A masterfully simple and useful book on prayer, written by an experienced retreat leader, counselor, and lecturer. Discusses how listening can be the key to encountering God in a fresh way in our lives.
A meditation on silence, the art of being present, and simple spirituality from critically acclaimed novelist Anne D. LeClaire (Entering Normal, The Lavender Hour), Listening Below the Noise offers a practical path to achieving calm, peaceful solitude in hectic lives. Practitioners of yoga and meditation of various traditions have long known the curative powers of stillness; in Listening Below the Noise, LeClaire offers her own unique, compelling version of this ancient wisdom tradition.
Where do you listen for God? In this new collection of stories and essays, the challenge is to pay attention everywhere. “Listening for God” is a resource intended to help readers investigate how life and faith merge in surprising ways and places. Contemporary American literature may not be the most predictable place to listen for God, but it may well turn out to be among the most rewarding.
Listening for the Heartbeat of God presents a spirituality for today, modeled on the vital characteristics of Celtic spirituality throughout the centuries. The emphasis is on the goodness of creation and of humanity made in the image of God.
StoryCorps founder and legendary radio producer Dave Isay selects the most memorable stories from StoryCorps’ collection, creating a moving portrait of American life.
The voices here connect us to real people and their lives–to their experiences of profound joy, sadness, courage, and despair, to good times and hard times, to good deeds and misdeeds. To read this book is to be reminded of how rich and varied the American storybook truly is, how resistant to easy categorization or stereotype. We are our history, individually and collectively, and Listening Is an Act of Love touchingly reminds us of this powerful truth.
This seminal work in the Listening Hearts series draws on centuries of classic Christian literature and “the silence of prayerful listening” to show how to recognize and define God’s call. It explains how to eliminate barriers and prepare one’s heart to receive the call – whether it is emphatic, subtle, or seemingly obscure.
Outstanding leaders are outstanding listeners! is the simple and irrefutable premise of Listening Leaders. Throughout human history the importance and value of effective listening and leading is well established. As leaders listen, individuals, teams, organizations, and societies thrive.
Sales Director Stu Preston has just six months to improve his performance or find another job. Despite his boss’s comment that he is not listening enough, Stu has no idea how to change his performance until he finds an unlikely sage. He learns how to listen better at work and in life, and realizes just how important listening can be; it’s the cornerstone of all human behavior. In this true-to-life story, LISTENING PAYS offers a practical and powerful system that can be the path to becoming a great listener.
A proven program for turning effective listening into a powerful business tool In this new edition of her classic guide to the art of effective listening, Madelyn Burley-Allen shows you how to acquire active, productive listening skills and put them to work for you–professionally, socially, and personally.
How do children experience and understand God? How can adults help children grow their life of faith? Throughout more than a decade of field research, children’s spirituality experts Catherine Stonehouse and Scottie May listened to children talk about their relationships with God, observed children and their parents in learning and worship settings, and interviewed adults about their childhood faith experiences. This accessibly written book weaves together their findings to offer a glimpse of the spiritual responsiveness and potential of children.
Listening to My Body is an engaging and interactive picture book that introduces children to the practice of paying attention to their bodies. Through a combination of story and simple experiential activities, it guides them through the process of noticing and naming their feelings and the physical sensations that accompany them, while helping them build on their capacity to engage mindfully, self-regulate, and develop a better sense of well-being.
In Listening to the Littlest, Ruth Reardon employs the voices of children to convey wisdom, assurance, consolation, and hopefulness to parents who can learn from the “littlest” if they have ears to hear.
Daily meditations taken from the works of an acclaimed novelist, essayist, and preacher who has articulated what he sees with a freshness and clarity and energy that hails our stultified imaginations.
Are you a good listener? How well do you really know the people around you? A capacity for empathic understanding is hard-wired in our brains, but its full expression involves particular listening skills that are seldom learned through ordinary experience. Through clear explanation, specific examples, and practical exercises, Dr. Miller offers a step-by-step process for developing your skillfulness in empathic listening. With a solid basis in sixty years of scientific research, these communication skills are not limited to professionals, and can be learned and applied in your everyday life. I
In today’s hypercompetitive world, kids often internalize the message that their worth is attached to their accomplishments and that messing up is something to be ashamed of, rather than a normal part of life, which can lead to critical self-talk. Listening with My Heart reminds us of the other golden rule—to treat ourselves like we would treat a friend. When we do this, we are practicing self-compassion.
In the visionary tradition of Rachel Carson’s Silent Spring, One Square Inch of Silence alerts us to beauty that we take for granted and sounds an urgent environmental alarm. Natural silence is our nation’s fastest-disappearing resource, warns Emmy-winning acoustic ecologist Gordon Hempton, who has made it his mission to record and preserve it in all its variety—before these soul-soothing terrestrial soundscapes vanish completely in the ever-rising din of man-made noise
Nothing causes bad decisions in organizations as often as poor listening. But Bernard Ferrari, adviser to some of the nation’s most influential executives, believes that such missteps can be avoided and that the skills and habits of good listening can be developed and mastered. He offers a step-by-step process that will help readers become active listeners, able to shape and focus any conversation.
Powerful Listening. Powerful Influence. Work Better. Live Better. Love Better: by Mastering the Art of Skillful Listening
Listening is the most powerful tool for success in business and in life. So if it’s that important, why don’t we listen better? Because life moves way too fast, we’re busy, and we don’t know how. Discover what active listening is and what it is not. Learn four simple actions that will train your brain to listen, and see for yourself the difference these steps make in your life. People need to be heard. If you understand this simple principle you’re well on your way along the road to success.
Practicing the Sacred Art of Listening: A Guide to Enrich Your Relationships and Kindle Your Spiritual Life
Kay Lindahl’s highly respected workshops are attended by people from a broad range of backgrounds. Her first book, The Sacred Art of Listening, has been published to acclaim in North America, Europe, and Asia. Now she offers practical, easy-to-follow advice and exercises to enhance your capacity to listen in a spirit-filled way.
You want to bring healthy change to your church, but are you too busy “doing” and not really “hearing”? Learn how to stop…and practice the simple, centuries-old art of listening. Follow the techniques Christ used to deepen your fellowship and your outreach.
Sacred Art of Listening: Forty Reflections for Cultivating a Spiritual Practice (The Art of Spiritual Living)
The Sacred Art of Listening guides you through forty practices of deep listening―to our Source, to ourselves, and to each other.
Inspiring text and contemplative artwork combine to communicate the three essential qualities of deep listening―silence, reflection and presence. They demonstrate that the key to healthy relationships and spiritual transformation can be as basic as practicing the art of listening.
A profound call to Christian discipleship. An intensive course in Christian faith. A creative freedom to serve God that is deeply grounded in Scripture. These are ways to describe Sacred Listening, James L. Wakefield’s adaptation of the classic Spiritual Exercises of Ignatius Loyola.
In Seven Thousand Ways to Listen, Nepo offers ancient and contemporary practices to help us stay close to what is sacred. In this beautifully written spiritual memoir, Nepo explores the transformational journey with his characteristic insight and grace. He unfolds the many gifts and challenges of deep listening as we are asked to reflect on the life we are given.
IWe are born into this world with a natural longing to connect to God and other human beings. When children have a listening companion who hears, acknowledges, and encourages their early experiences with God, it creates a spiritual footprint that shapes their lives. How can we increase our capacity to engage children in spiritual conversations? In this book Lacy Finn Borgo draws on her own experience of practicing spiritual direction with children. She offers an overview of childhood spiritual formation and introduces key skills for engaging conversation―posture, power, and patterns―from a Christ-centered perspective. “When we are fully present and open to another, we will be changed,” Borgo writes. “Indeed, as you listen to God with a child, the child will lead you into a fuller experience of God’s love and acceptance.” In this book you’ll find:
- Sample interactive dialogues with children
- Ideas for engaging children with play, art, and movement
- Prayers to use together
Whether you are a parent or grandparent, pastor or spiritual director, you will find this to be a friendly guide into deeper ways of listening.
If you’re a woman who finds herself still talking to men as if they’re your women friends, stop right now and read this book! Here’s exactly what you need to do to find out exactly ‘what he meant by that.’ Practical, sensible how-to advice to improve your intimate relationships and all your relationships, simply by what you say, how you say it and how you listen!
A book grounded in the Bible, contemporary spiritual theology and the insights of modern psychology, written as a guide for anyone who is required to assist others in human growth.
The renowned social psychologist and New York Times–bestselling author shares his insights on the process of psychotherapy, drawing on his own experience.
Over the course of a distinguished career, Erich Fromm built a reputation as a talented speaker and gifted psychoanalyst—the first specialization of this polymath. The Art of Listening is a transcription of a seminar Fromm gave in 1974 to American students in Switzerland. It provides insight into Fromm’s therapy techniques as well as his thoughts and mindset while working. In this intimate look at his profession, Fromm dismantles psychoanalysis and then reassembles it in a clear and engaging fashion.
The Art of Listening in a Healing Way“is Jim Miller’s sequel to his popular book, The Art of Being a Healing Presence. He describes what healing listening is and how it differs from other kinds of listening. Then 27 short chapters provide helpful insights in how to do this special kind of listening. Examples: “A healing listener listens with the eyes.” “A healing listener cleaves to silence.” Interspersed throughout are intriguing quotations from the ages, as well as the author’s floral photography.
Explore what it means to experience prayer that really is two-way. Using the Bible as a foundation, you can go way beyond theory and grow in the practice of listening prayer.
Life shouts. God whispers. How can we hear God’s whispers when the struggles and worries of life distract us? How can we quiet our souls?
“The Art of Spiritual Listening is about learning to listen to the gentle, persistent voice of God and help others hear God’s voice as well. With insightful and creative reflections, Alice Fryling guides us through Scripture passages that teach us how to experience and hear God more fully.
Most people listen at less than a quarter of their capacity. We’re overwhelmed with information, pulled in different directions, and have usually not been taught the most essential listening skills. The truth is: the simple key to effective listening is wanting to be good at it. and anyone can do it.
The Listening Book is about rediscovering the power of listening as an instrument of self-discovery and personal transformation. By exploring our capacity for listening to sounds and for making music, we can awaken and release our full creative powers. Mathieu offers suggestions and encouragement on many aspects of music-making, and provides playful exercises to help readers appreciate the connection between sound, music, and everyday life.
Life is full to overflowing, but we crave an illusive more. Via social networking, airwaves, and TV, our culture tells us to strive for more stuff, more activities, more adventure–you name it. Yet we are often left feeling unfulfilled and wanting. Empty, even. With so many demands for our attention, it is difficult to quiet our minds long enough to hear the still, small voice of our loving Father, and to listen to the One who desires to bring us so much more than the noise of everyday life.
A practical guide that will inspire school, district, and teacher leaders to make substantive change and increase equitable student outcomes. Rooted in the values of equity, relationships, and listening, this luminous book helps reimagine what is possible in education today. Drawing from more than twenty years of experience in public schools, Shane Safir incorporates hands-on strategies and powerful stories to show us how to leverage one of the most vital tools of leadership: listening.
How would our lives change if we approached every experience with the intention of listening first? In this noisy, distracting world, it is difficult to truly hear. People talk past each other, eager to be heard but somehow deaf to what is being said. Listening is an essential skill for healthy relationships, both with God and with other people. But it is more than that: listening is a way of life. Adam McHugh places listening at the heart of our spirituality, our relationships and our mission in the world.
One person talks; the other listens. It’s so basic that we take it for granted. Unfortunately, most of us think of ourselves as better listeners than we actually are. This thoughtful, witty, and empathic book has already helped over 125,000 readers break through conflicts and transform their personal and professional relationships.
With the help of a lot of practice, a young boy learns from his old teacher how to listen to the sounds and songs of the natural world, from a wildflower seed bursting open to the voice of the corn in a cornfield..
The benefits of practicing true listening are very real. Through refining our listening skills, we not only understand just what to say; we also understand when not to say anything at all. We become more open, present, and responsive. In turn, we renew the sense of peace within ourselves.
And the effects on our romantic, family, and professional relationships are undeniable.
Rebecca Shafir assures us that we can transform every aspect of our lives, simply by relearning how to listen. The Zen of Listening is grounded in the Zen concept of mindfulness, a simple yet profound way of learning how to filter our distractions and be totally in the present. Rather than a list of tricks, this book is an all-encompassing approach allowing you to transform your life.
At 23, Andrew Forsthoefel headed out the back door of his home in Chadds Ford, Pennsylvania, with a backpack, an audio recorder, his copies of Whitman and Rilke, and a sign that read “Walking to Listen.” He had just graduated from Middlebury College and was ready to begin his adult life, but he didn’t know how. So he decided to take a cross-country quest for guidance, one where everyone he met would be his guide.
The relationship between a child and parent is, without a doubt, a very private and personal matter. The idea of giving parents instructions on how to talk with their kids never sits right. However, parents should understand that the more they talk about things, the more comfortable it will be for them. Why not talk with kids in order to make them listen to you, and why not listen to kids to make them talk?
The way parents talk to their kids has a huge impact on their ability to learn and listen. Parents need to understand that they are constant examples to their kids on how to behave and act, and talking to them fits perfectly in this matter. Normally, there are three different ways parents communicate with their kids, and the first one is the aggressive way. This usually involves yelling and putting their kids down by using attacking words. This can make children to respond in several ways, mainly through acting out, ignoring the parent’s order, yelling back, or feeling very fearful.
The second communication form is commonly seen in passive form. Parents who fall under this category mutter softly, use very cautious tones and words, and even will just walk over their children when they find them fighting. Unfortunately, when the time comes that they’re pushed to their limits, they will suddenly burst and eventually turn into an aggressive communication tone. The last and the third way that parents use to communicate with their children is the assertive way. So far, this is the most perfect way to communicate with kids at all time and levels. Assertive communication is firm, confident, warm, positive, clear, and consistent. Assertive communication with kids is a skill, and it shows to kids that dad and mom know what they are about to say and will make them eventually listen.
We may think we’re good listeners, but not many of us are. When others talk, we focus on what we think, rather than what they are trying to say. Few of us know how to use the power of listening to improve life for ourselves or those around us. Dr. Jim Petersen says that good communication uses the same skills in a professional office, on a date, in a corporate board room, or at a kitchen table. This book can help you learn to listen your way to better relationships, from intimate to casual or work-related.
When children are caught up by the excitement of the moment, they sometimes forget to listen—and the result might be an accident or an avoidable mistake. This book helps them understand the importance of listening to parents and teachers. Kids will be attracted by the amusing color illustrations on every page, and parents and teachers will appreciate the note at the back of each book offering further suggestions on answering children’s questions.
Too often we think kids don’t listen. The surprising news is that they are paying attention. In Wired to Listen, Dr. Muffie Waterman presents research, classroom practice, and family stories to make it clear that what we say to kids and how we say it matters. From infancy through the tumultuous teenage years, our words are shaping what they believe about the world and themselves. You will learn: • How small shifts in wording can have a big impact • How questions can prompt kids to regulate themselves • How to find a more positive framing to help kids become more capable • How to talk openly about life’s difficult issues With simple ideas to start trying right away, Wired to Listen offers parents and teachers an inspiring, practical guide plus the most important reminder—what we say matters to the children in our lives.
espite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. And it’s making us lonelier, more isolated, and less tolerant than ever before. A listener by trade, New York Times contributor Kate Murphy wanted to know how we got here.
In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive, Murphy explains why we’re not listening, what it’s doing to us, and how we can reverse the trend. She makes accessible the psychology, neuroscience, and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best listeners out there (including a CIA agent, focus group moderator, bartender, radio producer, and top furniture salesman). Equal parts cultural observation, scientific exploration, and rousing call to action that’s full of practical advice, You’re Not Listening is to listening what Susan Cain’s Quiet was to introversion. It’s time to stop talking and start listening.